Saturday, November 10, 2007

Don't hide in your winter coat!

Uh oh guess what's coming? Winter, the season we are tempted not to exercise any more cause its too cold out and you don't want to get out and walk or go to the gym.The season we are most tempted to stay inside. Get out the stretch pants and vegitate on the couch like the potatoes we really are. Mmmmmm hot cocoa sounds perfect and don't forget the mini marshmellows. We eat all winter and gain the weight that we are going to have to lose come spring for the summer season. Hey, in that winter coat no one can really tell i'm gaining weight! Lets not do it this yr and lets not wait for new years to make that resloution that we never keep anyway.By the time new yrs comes we have already packed on the pounds from thanksgiving,christmas,channukkah and kwanza. When it comes to eating on the holidays i take on everyones religion! Lets get it right this time. The first two yrs after my gastric bypass surgery i did not do the holidays because i was not confident i could handle it. It took a few years in recovery to go back to the tables(sounds like i'm going to vegas) lol! Break the cycle you can do it! Don't tell me you can't do away with the holidays one year to get a lifetime of happiness! If you must do the holidays prepare ahead of time or i'm telling you now you are doomed. In my upcoming blogs i will be talking about healthy subsitutions and new behaviors. TO MY VOW I HOLD TRUE I WILL NOT GO BACK! happy holidays to one and all.... stacey

16 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Stacey,I am so looking forward to my gastrc bypass surgery. I hope not to care about food the way I do now.And remember holidays are not about food as much as it's all aout the presents-just kidding LOL!
I am sure you will come through the holidays with flying colors. Please do remember you are so much more important then cornbread stuffing or pecan pie..
Merry xmas/happy hannukah and god bless to to you
Beth in Texas

November 11, 2007 at 2:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i love your vow "TO MY VOW I HOLD TRUE I WILL NOT GO BACK" just be careful the words as we know is not enough the actions count a lot more. saying it is one thing doing is another.
Good luck Stacey.

November 13, 2007 at 2:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

am so glad to see you doing great...and i for one remember what holidays were like for you as we did share a few.....remembers those brooklyn holidays.....i miss you girl and hope you hve a wonderful holiday this year oh by the way im back in north carolina now lolol... love ya Carol

November 16, 2007 at 8:30 PM  
Anonymous Yanna said...

Dear Stacey...

Before I say anything else (and I have much to say), I first NEED and MUST say that I love you girlfriend and am most proud of the transformations you’ve made over the years! I never knew how or when, I just always knew you’d do it, and take the world by the :::can I say it here? oh what the heck::: BALLS! The physical changes in you are obviously breathtaking, but I was always able to see how beautiful you truly are on the outside (even at 500+ pounds), so your outward appearance doesn’t come as much of a shock to me, but it does sure make me smile and giggle a lot knowing YOU can see it now! Your health, the internal battles, and pain you carried were always what I was most was concerned with. It’s a job in itself to go through life carrying as much weight inwardly as you are outwardly.

I always admired the fire that forever burns within you that, despite the odds, was going to find what it took to do what you knew had to be done. You never gave up! Even the times you felt tired, discouraged, and your flame would weaken, you NEVER let the fire go completely out and you NEVER surrendered! I congratulate you on true victory Stacey! You really have one the war! ::: I feel you're just mending and cleaning up the left over damages now::: Although I’m older than you (only by a year or two ::smirk::) I can actually say I want to be you when I finally grow-up! ::hair-flip::

I learned from you that the struggle with weight-loss, that just all too many of us suffer with, must have that constant reminder of exactly those things to which you have learned and now share with the world… changes are a must, cycles must be broken, one addiction cannot be replaced with another, and a solemn vow never to go back! These are not options, they’re mandatory! Having lap-band surgery 3 years ago I believed was to be my rescue, WRONG! I didn’t just need more adjustments in my lap-band, but more in my ATTITUDE! The only one who can rescue me is ME! The lap-band and any other bariatric surgery is exactly what it has always claimed to be… a tool NOT a cure! The cure is in making the necessary adjustments, rearranging, facing the fears and challenges, renewing your spirit, removing the obstacles one at a time, believing in yourself, and knowing you don’t need validation from anyone or anything to feel you have a place in this world because God already did that… and who dares argue God?!! NOT ME! uh uh! :::shaking head:::

So… with all that said… here I am to say THANK YOU from my heart for writing your book and revealing the good, bad and ugly, for being REAL, and most of all for your help in renewing my spirit and strength Stacey, you’ve always been such an inspiration to me… I too now take on your challenge to vow not to go back, rather I’ll move forward and dare to succeed this time! :::wanna hold my hand?::: kiddinggggggg! Ready or not, here I come!

Hugs, Kisses and Smack-a-roonies…
Love ya… Diana

December 21, 2007 at 6:55 PM  
Blogger Carol said...

What can i say you amaze me more and more each day...I never gave up hope for you and never stopped thinking you would make it...even when we lived together in Brooklyn...I must say Diana you wrote beautiful words and please contact me at loved_lil_one05@yahoo.com

I hope one day i am peace enough with myself to continue this journey and this battle and hope and pray that it is not too late

December 24, 2007 at 4:22 PM  
Blogger Diana said...

:::Wavin' & a smilin' at ya'll!::: Christmas Eve has ended and I made it! Oh yeah! Mission Accomplished! One small cycle has been broken! Woo hoo! I come from a very large and oh so very Italian family and anyone who is Italian and/or knows an Italian then knows the MASSIVE traditional all fish dinner feast that takes place Christmas Eve... Well I'm proud to say :::sittin' up straight, puffin out chest::: that out of 11 various types of fish I had about 3 fork fulls of linguini w/ clam sauce, 1/2 a jumbo stuffed shrimp, 2 spears of broccoli, a small salad w/ balsamic vinegarette dressing, 1 glass of wine, 2 honey balls (strufolli) and 1 fig cookie with a cup of demi tasse coffee all night long! The norm every year is to gorge oneself into at least 2 servings of EACH dish and half those fishies are FRIED! :::rolling eyes::: Then after the fish feast you'd find at least a dozen different desserts that you at least take a bit from each one as the night continues! Mamma Mia! OK! Now someone keep me away from the left overs tomorrow PLEASE! haha! Taking doggie-bags home are mandatory and I don't have a dog! I didn't take much of a doggie-bag home so can someone loan me a small doggie for a day? :::hee hee - eyeballing Gertie:::

Hey Carol! I'll write you very soon! Honey, it's never too late, you're alive, so therefore [whether you're at peace or not yet] your journey hasn't ended, maybe you took a detour, but you're still on it sweetie :::nudging you on your shoulder::: At the risk of sounding like Scarlett O'Hara... "Tomorrow is another day!" Each day is a new beginning! The best thing I can suggest to you for now is to get up tomorrow and do what Stacey's book mentioned [I know I read it in there somewhere, don't remember what page]... Change 1 thing... just 1 itty bitty thing. I look at it as removing one of the obstacles blocking my path and found that after changing 1 thing and maintaining the change for 3 days I was ready to make a second (taking a 2nd obstacle away)... etc. Give it a whirl! Anyone out there have any other suggestions to add PLEASE?

Happy Holidays to all and to all a goodnight!

Hugs & Smooches... Diana

December 25, 2007 at 2:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

yanna at first all i heard was HONEY BALL, but when i came too lol! i was so proud that u made it thru my second favorite eating holiday, pretty pathetic since im a jap lol don't you see that if you can have such strength on a holiday ,regular old days can certainly be won one by one,fork by fork.if you would have told me six yrs ago that i would be motivating people i would have said "pass the honey balls and wake up and smell the half and half" You deserve a long life because you have so much to offer people. thank you for calling me friend love stacey

December 26, 2007 at 8:34 PM  
Anonymous stacey said...

CAROL, the women who lived with me in the height of my addiction all i can say is thank you! I totally believe in you . i am here for you if you need anything and it looks like diana is too. That was something i learned over time.To humbly put my tail between my legs and ask for help. A new season of the biggest loser show starts on january 1st at 8pm and although their are some things i do not agree with on that show like putting so much focus on the number of pounds i still find it highly motivating so try and watch. love stacey

December 26, 2007 at 8:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This girl who lived with you in the height of your addiction sounds like a great person and guess what she is still around to watch you win and always knew that one day you would do it and i thank you for being back in my life and for bringing diana back to my life even though i sat and drooled over her blog comment.....the one thing about me is i have never been a quitter i have given up many addictions and i know i will over come this one once again as i have n the past except this time it will be healthy and it will be for me and not for acceptance and for love... love you lots

December 26, 2007 at 9:03 PM  
Blogger Yanna said...

:::pffffffft::: Drooling over MY blog comment? WHAT! What I say? Was it the food? :::duh! - LOL!::: Oh Puleeeze... I can find sooooooo many better things to drool over :::smirk::: Mel Gibson, Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Ben Affleck... Now THAT's sumthin' to drool about! :::hee-hee::: I can dream ya know! :::smile::: Giving up addictions sure is tough, and I know we're not supposed to give up one addiction and then replace it with another, but I think I'm getting addicted to blogging! Someone hold me back! :::don't you dare! Slapping your hand!:::

All kidding aside... Yes Stacey, I can see now that if one can show strength on a major holiday then regular ol' days can be won, one by one, fork by fork... I love the way you put that... Thank you for that! The only "honey-anythings" :::trying to keep it clean::: I ever wanna see now are Mel's, Johnny's, Brad's, George's, Ben's... OK I'll stop! :::snicker, snort:::

A long healthy life is what I'm shooting for my friends... I don't allow negative stuff to become a part of my life anymore... I just can't... I've removed most of it so I can have a better chance at shooting for that longer healthier life... I won't welcome any new negativity and I sure hope that I can encourage others to do the same... It sure is a great jump-start to removing a whole bunch of weight!... All I have to really offer anyone is my friendship, experiences, an ear & shoulder when needed, some hugs & smooches, a kick when it's called for, some corny humor, and an honest heart... That's all that comes in this package :::blowing kisses::: Ciao for now!

Hugs, Kisses & Smack-a-roonies... Diana

December 27, 2007 at 1:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well now Diana you can take Brad and Johnny leave ma Angelina and i will be happy...in talking to you and Stacey over the past couple of days has reminded of so many things and who i use to be and im gonna bring that person back full force...the one who always did and lived life to the fullest....thank you both of you...love you both...Carol

December 27, 2007 at 9:58 AM  
Anonymous Carol said...

Thought would leave one of my poems I have written...one that that helps me take back the control


Prying away the fingers of my destroyer
I take its' power
You will rule no longer
Never again
I let you steal from me too long
I gave you everything
How dare I give in
How dare I allow you so much of myself
Your lies were made to weaken
Your words made to kill
I am taking over now
You will die by my words
Shut up!
Silence, only silence
No more will I follow blinded
by your non-truths
I see you for the monster you are
an evil so clever I almost became
your next victim
I see you clearly
You will not take me
Victory is mine
The battle is over
You will succumb to me now
Leave!
Never again will I allow you into
my mind
Never again will you steal from
me

December 27, 2007 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so glad (and you sweet things know I am) to hear you guys all talking and blogging. Carol you have in the past and you will now do it again and that is take care of yourself. Diana, you have always been there for everyone, keep in mind how important you really are and Sash what can I say about you. We are so all very proud of you,
you have never given up and I believe you never will.
Love you all
Mike

January 3, 2008 at 4:39 PM  
Blogger Yanna said...

Ahhhh yes... this blogging is a wonderful invention! I'm so happy about it too! If you haven't heard yet, it's my new addiction ya know ha-ha! Cool way of keeping in touch with this amazing world!

In answer to Mike about me trying to keep in mind how important I really am has been a big challenge for me, but I'm taking baby steps and trying to do it now. I don't know how many people out there can relate to only feeling important when taking care of or helping others ::sigh:: but somwhere it has to stop! Always being there for and taking care of all the people I love most because they are just so very important to me became so much a priority that I forgot somewhere down the line that I was important too. But I'm trying to remember now. The hardest thing I'm dealing with presently is trying to transfer all that love and care I gave to my Daddy the last 5 years while he was so sick back over to myself. He was number 1 the last 5 years and even though he's gone now for almost 4 months I still feel those needs to care for him. This is where I get to take care of me now and I somehow feel as though I'm being selfish. It's a trick of the mind! I can speak the words "I am important" and I can hear them and they make sense to me, but somewhere inside something just quite isn't believing it yet. I'm sure a lot stems from having a tough childhood emotionally I gave to others what I felt I wasn't getting because it made me feel good that someone was getting it; In my marriage of 20 years I gave the best of me to what turned out to be a very abusive man who never deserved my best nor appreciated it and it almost buried me (but being divorced now has given me peace and much relief); I raised 5children to where 4 of them are now grown and on their own with families of their own to care for, and now the last 5 years I dedicated myself to my Daddy. I have my 20 year old son who, although developmentally disabled and dependent upon solely me, has been the blessing of a lifetime and I MUST be good to me so I can be the BEST for him! He DOES deserve the best of me and so do I. So it's my turn now and I can't seem to get the idea that it's ok to have a turn. Can you believe that there's even a sick part inside of me that whispers it's too late and I've given so much that I have nothing left for me! THAT HAS TO BE A LIE! So... I'm working on itttttttttt! yi-yi-yi! I'm not a quitter that's for sure!

Love & Hugs out to all!
...Diana

January 4, 2008 at 1:05 AM  
Anonymous Carol said...

To All....

In the past I have lost my weight but for what reasons did i do it...to be accepted by family and friends...to fit into society etc....but now has come the time to do it for me....to make myself number one....to do it for the right reasons....Mike your support and love throughout the years has been amazing and your words have kept me going through so many troubles through out my life...there are many times i hear your words when times get tough and i know that i can make it....Diana you have been a friend through so much and even though we lost contact for so many years we are back together now stronger then ever as friends....Stac what can i say you have been an inspiration even on your worst days and i always knew that you can do it....Now a word to all reading this....Losing weight is an everyday battle and a life time commitment...find the reason you are doing it and make sure that reason is for yourself and no one else...Be selfish in why you want to do this and lets join hands unite as one and make this commitment together to support and be there when each one of us needs it the most.... hugggs to all

January 4, 2008 at 10:32 AM  
Anonymous Carol said...

I leave this poem on your page one that i wrote awhile ago ...hope it helps someone out there........Take the Control you need and never give up.......



I have been told to hang on

Hang on with all your might

Never dare to give up

Fight with all your soul might

Be fair and kind to your heart

Never break, never loose hope

Surrender to your own kind words

Pick your own self up

Threw this all i have had angels as my protection

They will never forsake me

As i fall to my shaken knees and cry out

a prayer

I am reminded these answers i seek

are with in me and always have been

January 4, 2008 at 10:52 AM  

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