Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Beware of Negative People, They Might Cost You a Pound

Do you ever feel misunderstood? What sends you to food?

One of the best ways I can take care of myself and stay out of the danger of over-eating is to stay away from negative people or negative conversations. You know the people I am talking about: the ones who are not happy unless they are constantly complaining about anything and everything!

I am often accused of being a loner or a private person. With my friends and others who are, for the most part, positive (we all get negative now and again), I am an open book and very outgoing. I used to get upset when people would say that I was snotty if I said hello and moved on without stopping to make small talk. I would cry to myself because I sometimes felt so misunderstood, and those feelings would make me very hungry.

I have finally learned how to deal with it. If someone tells me I’m standoffish or that I’m not friendly, I tell them the truth whether they understand or not. I simply say that I often notice they complain a lot or talk about negative things, and I would love to talk to them, but my history with negative talk leads me to food. I might be even doing them a favor, in a way. Sometimes people who complain don’t even realize that they always sound so negative. A little bit of honesty beats a bag of Oreos anytime!

I suffer from depression and I need to stay in a positive frame of mind or else I am in danger of becoming 500 pounds again. Most the time, truly negative people will never get it. I understand I do not need to justify myself to anyone, but telling the truth makes me feel better for now. I’m hoping at some time in the near future I will no longer care and will be able to say nothing and move on. The weight comes off quicker than these emotional changes, so I just need to be patient with myself – and you should be, too.

I also want to let all my friends and NY City-area fans know that I will be speaking at the American Diabetes Association’s Diabetes Expo this fall. The Expo is a free event, held in the Jacob Javits Convention Center in September. If you would like to RSVP, or for more information, you can email me at

Have a wonderful week and try to stick with positive people!

All the best,


Anonymous d.s said...

you are wonderful stacey...i amconstantly surrounded by negative peopleand i believe that God meto this website today to read what u have written! unfortunately as i type this it is 1am and i am digging into a bowl of sapghetti and meatballs...having read your post though i have put my fork down and walked away knowing that food ultimately does not take the pain of being misunderstood and obese away.thank you for your words of wisdom!

July 22, 2009 at 11:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear d.s. wow that was a really big step to put the fork down so quickly! That is what i call a moehill as opossed to a mountain, once we start recognizing our small steps then they will lead to a big mountain of success,I promise! I AM SO HAPPY YOU WROTE ON MY BLOG usually people e mail me and im looking to really start a support group out here. I AM NOT THE LEADER, I am and always will be one of you and all of us struggling! would love you to write more in the near future, thanks and ill be routing for you! with great respect.....Stacey

July 24, 2009 at 3:50 PM  

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